Being
a couple
a dynamic, tailor-made balance
Comparing identities
In a couple’s relationship, the traits that define the identity of the two partners interact at various levels.
Thus, different cultural traits, habits and mental patterns derived from the family of origin and life experiences are combined.
Finally, mutual expectations declared or implied, give meaning and motivation to the relationship, from daily living to collaboration towards life projects.
This relationship is dynamic, given that, through years and life, people change in all aspects mentioned above. The partners must work out, actively or passively, an ongoing balance that life experiences can sometimes challenge.
For example, a challenging period at work, moving to another city, the organisation of a wedding, a pregnancy, an illness, the education of children, or simply the renovation of the house can all undermine moods and compromise communication. As a result, expectations and needs change, perhaps only for one of the partners. The balance that once was solid is now in question.
How can I improve communication and behavioural techniques to reinvigorate the relationship or overcome an impasse?
Ci sono esperienze che mettono in discussione anche le unioni più solide
Seemingly simple events can trigger violent contrasts and create a daily routine of conflict, anger, anguish, tension, boredom, depression and guilt to the point of resignation or indifference.
It seems like a partner no longer appreciates the other. It is like living with a stranger who previously was hilarious, funny, and caring, someone to make plans with, and who now it is impossible to understand anymore.
In some cases, the couple succeeds in creating a new balance. However, such a crisis may last longer in other cases because anybody can make decisive decisions. Eventually, the result is to separate.
Cosa può fare la terapia
It is impossible to indicate a formula that can be adapted to everyone. However, therapy can help in the following examples:
- Clarifying which aspects of the relationship are most problematic.
- Achieving communication and behavioural techniques that can advance the relationship or overcome an impasse.
- Improving couple intimacy
- Becoming aware of why there are problems by looking at them from different perspectives.
- Differentiate what comes from life duties and the partners’ personalities.
- Finding creative solutions.
- Converting a difficult moment into an opportunity for a change.
- Becoming conscious of choices that consider each one life plan.
- Dealing with the burden of guilt.
- Remember that learning to love and care has nothing to do with being perfect.
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